Who Told You That You Can't Succeed?

Meshell's Success Misnomer #1 -- There is no can't. There is an infinite number of ways to get to your desired result.

Meshell's Success Misnomer

Let's get right down to it. The reason we struggle is not that of a lack of resources. But instead, it is our beliefs limiting our ability to activate our resourcefulness. Most often there is NO ONE telling us we can't. It is what we have been saying to ourselves for so long, we believe it.

And it's these negative thoughts and self-talk, that you can't seem to get a hold of, bringing your drive and determination to a screeching halt. And all that's left... the seeds of dreams deferred and disappointing thoughts that unchecked will harvest the excuses and alibis of why you can't or why you're not ready. We are what repeatedly tell ourselves.

C -- Conditioning
A -- Accepts
N -- Negative
T -- Truths

You see can't is not just a symbol of your disbelief in your abilities. What has happened, over time, is a deep-rooted distrust of yourself. Which bring forth behaviors of minimal effort followed by can't or endless discussions of why it can't work. Still not sure if what I'm saying is true? (Don't believe me?) Here is an activity to demonstrate the power of your negative and recurring thoughts.

Decide to do an activity that makes you feel uncomfortable, by end of the today. Write it down and tell someone who will hold you accountable. Text me if you don't have a good accountability partner 512.937.3263 Now, I want you to capture (write or voice memo) all the thoughts you have, throughout the day, about the impending uncomfortable activity. Here are some questions to help you track your thoughts.

  • Are your thoughts positive or negative?
  • Do I believe what I'm thinking?
  • Are these thoughts helping me?
  • What am I imagining about the activity?
  • Is my imagination positive or negative?
What you are going to discover is what you are telling yourself is either helping or hurting you. And either way, there is always room to grow and improve. To have the career and life you desire demands aligning your thoughts to empower you to create and deliver possibility. This is the ultimate sale and how you sell yourself. By believing that there is no problem to great for you to deliver.

What do I mean by possibility? It is your belief in yourself to create, to direct your thoughts toward a favorable outcome for all involved. This is why the Top 1% of Sales Performers are exceptional. They work from the inside out. Believing first and foremost in themselves and their abilities before engaging prospects and customers.

Here's an example of possibility. If I gave you a box of vanilla cake mix and said, "bake a cake." What I would expect, and what you would deliver, would be a vanilla cake. Now, if I gave you that same box of vanilla cake mix and said: "make a dessert." Well, now the fun begins! I have set your mind free of the confines of the expected. Your mind begins to expand and imagine the possibility. You get to deliver results that exceed expectations and showcase just how extraordinary you can be... given the chance.

To further illustrate the expansiveness of possibilities. I googled "unconventional ways to bake a cake" and came across, "16 Unexpected Things You Can Do With Cake Mix." Here's the list:

1. No-Bake Funfetti Cheesecake Cups
2. Chocolate Cake Batter Ice Cream
3. Rolo Cookies
4. Strawberry-Lime Gooey Bars
5. Chocolate-Banana Cake Batter Shake
6. Tres Leches Caketini
7. Shortcut Coconut-Almond Macaroons
8. Red Velvet Waffles
9. Skinny Cake Batter No-Churn Ice Cream
10. Caramel Blossoms
11. Cake Batter Fudge
12. Cake Batter Cookies
13. Cake Batter Whipped Cream
14. Key Lime Cheesecake Cookie Cups
15. Orange Creamsicle Rice Krispie Treats
16. Pistachio Pudding Cookies

Isn't it amazing, the power of words?! Two very similar phrases, both with only three words command very different outcomes. What does baking cakes have to do with your success? Well, nothing, I like the metaphor and I like cake....:-)

What I do want you to take away from this, just like the instructions for making the cake, you are giving yourself instructions all day long. Research shows that we think and the average of 12,000 -- 60,000 thoughts per day. And without positive activities and routines over 80% of those thoughts are negative and 95% are repetitive. No wonder it's so hard to succeed. Think about what you are saying to yourself all day long.

  • Is it empowering?
  • Is it encouraging?
  • Is it expanding?
Are you your own No. 1 Fan or your worst nightmare? Would you talk to your best friend or beloved the way you speak to yourself when things don't go right or as expected? This is a real talk I'm giving you. Why? I am on a mission to ban the phrase, "trying to figure it out." I strongly believe that BELIEF empowers you to bridge the gap and create your I'mPossible Dreams. There are limitless ways to discover your answers and solutions as well as an endless abundance of opportunity and it all begins when you believe you can.

Remember can't limit your thoughts and deters you from you from creating the amazing. People who do incredible and amazing things, those who defy the odds and achieve greatness do so despite their humble beginnings, upbringings, devastating setbacks and heart-stopping losses. They look past what is visible to their eyes and focus on the unseen and unknown.

C -- Creativity
A -- Actively
N -- Nurtured

With the support of the National Association of Sales Professionals (NASP), I am launching the Women of Sales & Influence member community on January 8th!

I believe the best ways to improve your sales is to improve your mind. The best ways to achieve this are courses, community, and coaching. I welcome you to join us and experience the power of BELIEF!

You can and will succeed. Together we are creating our amazing careers and lives. Come join us!

And if you can't join, please share this post with any woman you know looking to impact and increase her sales and influence. Thank you for helping me get the word out.
Meshell Baker
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Director Global Sales Development | Sales Success Strategist | Expert Confidence Coach | Founder of Women of Sales & Influence | Spokeswoman for the National Association of Sales Professionals

Meshell R Baker, is a captivating and highly engaging International Keynote Speaker. She is often referred to as being "an amazing gift of clarity." Alongside her coaching business, she has partnered with the National Association of Sales Professionals (NASP) as a spokesperson. Where founded and leads the platform, Women of Sales & Influence, creating space and opportunities for women to grow their income and advance their influence.

Baker is an accomplished, high energy sales leader with over 20 years of proven sales success. She guides her clients to sustain success by becoming valuable in the marketplace while achieving their biggest dreams and greatest desires. Baker is a keynote speaker who's been featured in Ladies Home Journal Magazine, stages and podcast around the globe. She is renowned for her no-nonsense approach that inspires attendees to convert more conversations into raving fan clients!
  • /data/userPictures/B2D278C4-2AF2-41BD-BC3C-5D70A6BAB461.jpgSaad Alaa edine, Sr.1/2/2019 3:39:20 AM
    After reading your article, i realy want to improve my mindset and keep in mind that WE CAN ALL BE SUCCESSFUL.

  • /data/userPictures/0AC92538-D4A7-47F6-BAE0-2B7281B3DB02.jpgAmanda Albert1/2/2019 5:55:18 AM
    I would love to ban the phrase, "trying to figure it out" as well!

  • /_ckcommon/images/blanks/userPictureFemale.jpgGina Wood1/2/2019 11:43:01 PM
    As a wise man once said, "whether you can or you cant, you are right". Great information Meshelle and a great article to cement the CAN....

  • /_ckcommon/images/blanks/userPictureMale.jpgVivek Sinha1/6/2019 9:37:13 PM
    Your conscious actions are result of how you feed your sub-conscious mind. Thanks for this great article, Meshelle.

  • /_ckcommon/images/blanks/userPicture.jpgTalei Hutson1/23/2019 5:28:33 AM
    Fantastic article an inspiring read great for shifting perspective and keep on track as habits start to cycle.

  • /data/userPictures/CB499905-5058-49DA-A6B1-765C9283F1D4.jpgMeshell Baker1/23/2019 10:43:02 AM
    Thank you all for such amazing and affirming comments! So glad this article is having it's intended impact!

  • /_ckcommon/images/blanks/userPicture.jpgKatelyn Barber1/26/2019 2:23:40 PM
    This is truly eye-opening. If we focus on how we view ourselves rather than just our external methods, processes, etc we will see greater results than we ever could have expected. Who would have thought we could succeed just by improving how we think about ourselves!

  • /data/userPictures/1603041F-0CBC-4019-A14D-82C147D431D5.jpgTyler Spencer, MS2/27/2019 10:37:55 AM
    Your knowledge and influence behind the reason people think they can't succeed is profoundly accurate! Thank you for taking the time you took to post this article, I enjoyed reading it.

  • /data/userPictures/F246D126-4F48-4FDE-9B1E-369F4478250B.jpgErin Vergara6/4/2019 9:09:48 PM
    Love love love this article. I think it has so much positivity and ways to help people move their mindset, and in turn everything else. I will certainly be sharing with my team.

  • /data/userPictures/CB499905-5058-49DA-A6B1-765C9283F1D4.jpgMeshell Baker7/17/2019 3:05:54 PM
    Thank You All for such glowing remarks and response!!!

  • /data/userPictures/B68DB054-9836-412D-93D0-C4A8A46859F4.jpgserena jones11/20/2019 10:24:19 PM
    This article is very powerful. loved it

  • /data/userPictures/CB499905-5058-49DA-A6B1-765C9283F1D4.jpgMeshell Baker11/21/2019 11:47:19 PM
    Thank you! I am glad you found value!!

  • /data/userPictures/B5A66071-A475-4297-B69B-05064B55C3CF.jpgMonica Lungu1/29/2020 10:05:43 AM
    A truly inspiring article!

  • /data/userPictures/CB499905-5058-49DA-A6B1-765C9283F1D4.jpgMeshell Baker1/29/2020 4:13:53 PM
    Monica I am glad you enjoyed it!

  • /data/userPictures/79A3E582-1EB2-4E42-BE3C-D1AF9E815D1A.jpgVaheed Shahnam4/21/2020 10:24:33 PM
    It's all about the CAN mentality. Currently went through major setbacks in the midst of this global pandemic, but I am staying resilient and working towards a very bright future. Success is about how we choose to respond to adversity.

  • /data/userPictures/79A3E582-1EB2-4E42-BE3C-D1AF9E815D1A.jpgVaheed Shahnam4/21/2020 10:27:45 PM
    It's all about the CAN mentality. Currently went through major setbacks in the midst of this global pandemic, but I am staying resilient and working towards a very bright future. Success is about how we choose to respond to adversity.